We live in a society of instant gratification, the world at our fingertips, impacting our every desire to pursue pleasure immediately without delay. The ability to swipe, click and have things at our doorstep within minutes fosters an impulsive culture. Through impulsive decisions, we prioritize short-term happiness over long-term gain. It’s a self-regulation challenge seen in those with BPD and ADHD alike— the pursuit of immediate rewards makes it harder to regulate impulses and choices that align with our deeper values. I know and live with both.

But I’ve been trying to reclaim discipline in my own life by healing my attention span, and a big part of that process has been allowing myself to be bored (the ultimate hell state for me). It’s uncomfortable, but in that discomfort, I’m teaching my brain how to pause, reflect, and make decisions that nurture long-term fulfilment. Gardening has become a part of that journey— slowly planting seeds and watching them grow reminds me that not all beauty and growth is instant. It takes time, patience and intentional care. It’s a humbling practice and I’m excited to get my hands dirty again this season.